Undesirable Consequences

Posted by Abe Quiring on Jul 10th 2019

When I am faced with an important decision (choosing the right outfit, marketing a new line of products, setting sales goals, hiring), I like to play out all the positive and negative situations that could happen.  My fear is embarrassing myself, so I do everything in my power to eliminate the undesirable consequences that would make me look foolish.  I enjoy the power of making sure everything goes as planned, however, it ends up being temporary and leaves me filled with worry.

I used to do triathlons and remember how excited I was for my first race.  The excitement soon turned to worry as I had no idea of what to expect.  What do I wear?  When do I arrive?  How do I transition from the swim to bike and the bike to run?  I didn’t sleep much the night before the race even though I had planned everything out.Everything had gone as planned until I transitioned from the bike to the run.  As I left the bike area, people were cheering and pointing at their heads.  Not sure why they were pointing at their heads, I picked up my pace.  About 300 yards later, as I went to wipe the sweat from my brow I figured out why fans were pointing at their heads - I was still wearing my helmet.  Embarrassed, I returned to the transition area to return my helmet.  To my surprise people were not laughing at me they were still cheering me on.

I have realized that our problems are not the by-product of our circumstances, but our perspective on our circumstances.  We need to quit playing it safe and learn from the discomfort we feel when don’t know what to expect.  Even though people were cheering me on, you better believe that I have never left the transition area with my helmet on.  Be inspired to do great things and leave the worrying to someone else.